Does anyone ever meet the old fashioned way anymore? In a bar?
I pondered this question as I got ready to go out last night for a drink with a couple of girlfriends (I know, I said I like spending Friday nights alone, but a couple of pints with great friends is even better!)
Anyway, although I was putting in my best effort to look nice, I knew it was really only for myself; I wasn’t going to be coming home with any new digits scrawled across my arm.
In my late teens and early twenties it was exciting getting ready to go out on a Friday or Saturday night because you never knew who you might run into.
In fact, some of my best relationships spawned from a bar hook-up:
My first love and first major heartbreak – swept me off my feet with some lame pick-up line……..at a bar.
The one who I came closest to marriage with – spotted eachother across the crowded patio………at a bar.
In those days the general consensus was that it was tacky or even – for lack of a better word – slutty to meet someone in a bar. Nowadays, there’s a romantic simplicity to the idea.
Going out last night I knew there would probably be some single, available guys hanging around, just as there would be single, available girls. I also knew that we’d all stick to our own groups, chatting and laughing quietly with eachother, only to return home alone and check our online dating profiles.
Maybe this is all just showing my age and younger singles still do meet in bars. I don’t know because I’m so rarely part of that scene anymore. But personally, I think it’s time to go back to good old bar hook-ups.
You can figure out just as much or more about a person simply by hanging out with them, drunk at a bar for a few hours, as you can by online “dating” them for three weeks! From my experience with online dating, it doesn’t matter how much you like the person’s photos and think you’ve forged a connection, all that can change in an instant when you come face to face. With online dating, no matter how much information you’re able to glean from a dating profile and email chats, there’s no way of knowing how they carry themselves, what their voice sounds like or whether they have an offensive odour until they’re right there in front of you.
It doesn’t matter how much you think you “cyber” like the person, all that matters is how you feel on that first meeting.
It’s also crossed my mind that while online dating opens up our social circles and brings us in contact with people whom we never would have met otherwise, maybe there’s a reason we never would have met them.
And maybe it should stay that way.
I'm laughing out loud Rob! Maybe there is a reason we never would have met them.
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