Maybe all the good men are right here

 I may have just discovered an untapped man-market ladies.

I met a guy recently who could best be described as the male of version of a woman whose clock is ticking.

It was almost surreal to come across a man so desperate to be married and have children. You don’t find that very often.

At first the meeting was polite and cordial but quickly turned into a bit of an interrogation. In just an hour-long  date we covered topics ranging from past relationships and why they didn’t work, to what we’re looking for in a mate and when we hoped to have our first children.

At one point, he even said that he wasn’t looking for anything special, just a “reasonably healthy” and “decent” girl to have a family with.

After chatting with him for a while, it dawned on me that part of his difficulty is that he’s foreign. Although he’s lived in Toronto for about 15 years, he still has a thick Persian (which I discovered means Iranian……!) accent. I asked him if there were any Iranian social groups in the city where he might find someone from his culture, but he said that he’s intent on coupling up with a “Canadian” girl. He feels it’s important for his integration into Canadian society, to be with a Canadian woman. And I have to say, I respect him for this but I feel badly for him at the same time.

He said it’s hard to make friends and meet women as an immigrant to Canada.

Canadians, or maybe more specifically, Torontonians, he said, are very closed and conservative, sticking to their own groups.

I can see this because I know that I stick to my own group, however unintentionally, even though I like to think of myself as open-minded, accepting and worldly. Unfortunately, as soon as I discovered that my date was not “Canadian” I wasn’t all that interested anymore. I don’t know why, and I’ve been pondering this a lot over the past few days.

My date insisted, which was surprising to me and something I don’t think I’ve ever heard before, that there are more men than women in Toronto; about 15 single guys to every single female in the city, was his estimation.

There are so many new Canadians who come to live and work in Toronto, he said, and the majority of them are men. This is why it’s difficult for a guy like him to meet and marry a Canadian woman, he said.

It’s all about supply and demand, you see.

My new friend has a low supply of women, which makes him eager to put a ring on any decently-shaped finger he comes across. As for the guys we tend to want to date and be attracted to, the opposite is true: they have women lining up around the corner for them which, through no fault of their own, forces them to keep looking for the next best thing. There’s always another one waiting in the wings.

So maybe it’s time for us single girls to broaden our horizons. If there truly are 15 guys for every woman in the city, as my Iranian prince insisted, the dating world is our oyster! We may just have to re-think what we’re looking for and give “Mr. Right” in our mind’s eye, a bit of a makeover.

Oh, and in case you were wondering, I won’t be going out with him again.

I just wasn’t all that interested…………